Enough Is Enough

There have been some amazing discussions, tweets, blog posts, and petitions circulating since Friday’s horrific events in Newtown, CT.  I am both saddened and honored to be a part of these conversations.

As a mother I struggle to comprehend this unspeakable tragedy.  I weep for those victims and their families.  I am grateful for the extra cuddles with my young children.  I remain angry at the state of this country that we cannot make meaningful change to end mass shootings.

Aside from the phenomenal leadership of President Obama and Mayor Bloomberg (speaking on Meet the Press), a quote from John Cassidy of the New Yorker resonated most with me.  “The U.S. gun laws, bought and paid for by the N.R.A., are a disgrace to the nation, an affront to the values it claims to represent, and a travesty of the Democratic process.”

There must be a way to restore some sanity to the lengths we are willing to go to uphold the Second Amendment.  Please tell me we can put aside politics to protect our children over our right to bear arms.  If we can do anything to stop even one of these incidents or two of these deaths, we must.  If not, honestly, I can stand for something extreme at this point.

People love to say that these killers would have found a way to kill even without guns. Prove it. Take away the guns. Let’s make them find another way to slay innocent children. Because I can’t stand to watch another senseless mass shooting.

Enough is enough.

In October I had the honor of speaking out against toy guns in a Huffington Post Live segment.  I’ve reposted that below for anyone who needs a little incentive to get mad all over again. After petitioning the NRA and Congress, I’m focusing on Nerf and other toy companies. These things just don’t make sense in my life.

Originally posted 10/31/12

I don’t remember having toy guns when I was little but I don’t remember them being forbidden either.  I like to think my brother and I were smart enough to realize we had no use for them.  More likely, my mom was a smart and sly parent who jedi mind tricked us into thinking we didn’t even want them.

At this point in my children’s lives I cannot imagine buying them a toy gun.  I am all for them exploring the topics of power or “good vs bad” but they are going to have to use their creativity to find suitable weapons.  A stick, their fingers, or a ruler will just have to do.  Especially when toy guns today look like this:


Seriously?  How can I explain to a child that somehow this is appropriate as a toy, but as a real object its only purpose is to inflict incredible harm on others?  It’s not that I think playing with guns will make your child a violent person, but I don’t feel comfortable buying a gun for my kids under the premise that “it’s just a toy.”  Even a toy gun needs a context, especially given the way violence is glorified by video games and movies.  I’m not saying my kids will never play with them ever because I don’t necessarily want to make a big deal out of it.  However, there’s a huge spectrum between a toy water and that Nerf monstrosity.  A toy machine gun will never find its way into my house.

Do you allow toy guns in your house?  Would you?  What are your limitations on gun play?

I participated in a Huffington Post Live segment debating whether our children had the “right to bear toy arms.”  The discussion began with Halloween costumes but explored more, from Angelina Jolie to the media’s glorification of weapons.  (Spoiler alert:  I was the lone parent horrified by these objects.)

About Carinn Jade

Mother, lawyer, yogi, writer, non-sleeper. Published @NYTMotherlode. Contributor @Mommyish @Moonfrye @HuffPostLive. I like beer (not wine) & tea (not coffee) & being a contrarian.
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