My Kids Will Have To Figure Out How To Pretend Shoot Themselves Without Guns

I don’t remember having toy guns when I was little but I don’t remember them being forbidden either.  I like to think my brother and I were smart enough to realize we had no use for them.  More likely, my mom was a smart and sly parent who jedi mind tricked us into thinking we didn’t even want them.

At this point in my children’s lives I cannot imagine buying them a toy gun.  I am all for them exploring the topics of power or “good vs bad” but they are going to have to use their creativity to find suitable weapons.  A stick, their fingers, or a ruler will just have to do.  Especially when toy guns today look like this:


Seriously?  How can I explain to a child that somehow this is appropriate as a toy, but as a real object its only purpose is to inflict incredible harm on others?  It’s not that I think playing with guns will make your child a violent person, but I don’t feel comfortable buying a gun for my kids under the premise that “it’s just a toy.”  Even a toy gun needs a context, especially given the way violence is glorified by video games and movies.  I’m not saying my kids will never play with them ever because I don’t want to make a huge deal out of it.  However, there’s a huge spectrum between a toy water and that Nerf monstrosity.  A toy machine gun will never find its way into my house.

Do you allow toy guns in your house?  Would you?  What are your limitations on gun play?

I participated in a Huffington Post Live segment debating whether our children had the “right to bear toy arms.”  The discussion began with Halloween costumes but explored more, from Angelina Jolie to the media’s glorification of weapons.  (Spoiler alert:  I was the lone parent horrified by these objects.)

About Carinn Jade

Mother, lawyer, yogi, writer, non-sleeper. Published @NYTMotherlode. Contributor @Mommyish @Moonfrye @HuffPostLive. I like beer (not wine) & tea (not coffee) & being a contrarian.
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1 Response to My Kids Will Have To Figure Out How To Pretend Shoot Themselves Without Guns

  1. We have Nerf dart guns, but not that monstrosity. It’s just something we never made a big deal about. We play water guns in the yard. The kids pretend to be protecting the town from Grizzlies. We have rules and if you get caught breaking the rules the guns along with other toys are gone, and there are no warnings. We talk about real gun safety all the time.

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